Now that we understand what it means to consider what the other human we’re connecting with needs, let’s discuss how communication styles play a role in mindful communication. There are many different styles of communication and for this article, I’ll focus on the DiSC method because this is the one I know best for identifying styles. If you have done DiSC before and know what your style is, you can start to think about how your style may impact others.
D – Dominance: direct, strong-willed and forceful I – Influence: sociable, talkative and lively S – Steadiness: gentle, accommodating and soft-hearted C – Conscientiousness: private, analytical and logical (Source: https://www.discprofiles.com/blog/2011/12/disc-profile-definition/) For me, I fall primarily in the dominance category. Although most people have multiple communication styles they use in different situations, using dominance for me can pose unique challenges when interacting with other styles. I often have been told I come across as impersonal, blunt, too direct, or uncaring. Likewise, when interacting with others who are influencers, I find them to be brash, egotistical, unorganized, and sometimes flighty. However, recognizing the strengths of how we use our communication style and the opportunities to use it more effectively, helps us move towards more mindful communication. If you haven’t taken the DiSC profile yet, take a look at the website or the quick definition provided above to see where you may fall, then try the activity below. If you have taken the DiSC profile and you know where you are, consider these five tips during your next conversation.
Stay posted for the third and final mindful communication article next week when I discuss the lens we bring to communication.
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Mindful communiCATION Series: What does this human need? A strategy to stimulate deep listening3/13/2019 Over the next three weeks, this 3-part series in mindful communication will give you real-life strategies to communicate, well, more mindfully. We can’t all be Deepak Chopra, Oprah, or Bill and Melinda Gates when it comes to communicating with others. In fact, we may sometimes struggle communicating with those around us. Give yourself a little pat on the back for opening this post and wanting to learn more about how to communicate more mindfully.
So, what is mindful communication? Think about that interaction you had that didn’t go quite as planned. What was your intention going into that discussion or interaction? Did you have an intention? Mindful communication simply directs our attention and efforts to the intention of our interaction. When we engage with others more mindfully, we can help remove biases and we open up to what they’re saying – without having to react! We realize we don’t need to be right. We can let the other person be smarter than us. Mindful communication is about realizing the impact our words have on the relationship. Let’s dig into the first strategy in this series. . . . What does this human need? A strategy to stimulate deep listening. During a recent conversation with a coach, the concept of deep listening came up again (this is the second time I’ve written about this now!). Specifically, listening to what the human you’re talking to NEEDS. Whoa…What does that even mean? Imagine you’re talking to someone and you just aren’t seeing eye to eye. You may exchange arguments for one rationale versus the other, and you are both unwilling to budge from your position on the topic (gee, this doesn’t come up at all in our political climate, haha). This is when I was asked to take a step back. Observe the situation and discussion. What do you notice? What have you been hearing this person say? How have you been contributing to the conversation? If you’re like me, stopping to observe may be a challenging task to do while in the moment of the conversation. However, I’ve been trying it out and it really helps me be more mindful. Below are the steps I’ve been taking to help make mindful communication happen.
The ability to step back during a conversation and ask yourself what the person needs requires a great deal of compassion, not only for that person, but also for yourself. Give yourself some space to try this out and see how it can lead to more mindful communication for you. Asking what this human needs can help you identify areas of communication that may prevent you from moving forward in the relationship. I know it has for me. However, deep listening is a skill we all can continue to develop and do not need to be stuck in a communication rut. I’d be interested to hear how you use this in your life, so please don’t be shy to share your stories! Stay tuned next week for the second in the series when we discuss communication styles. - HRH |
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